Are you a people pleaser? Do you constantly say YES? Do you take on too many tasks and projects? Why do people have a hard time saying NO? Saying no may seem like you are rejecting someone, you don’t care or you are letting someone down.
Whether it’s a date, a meeting, project, volunteering, or giving money, you WANT to say ‘NO’ but you end up saying yes.
If ‘NO’ feels and sounds harsh, here are some tips:
Let them know you wish you could say yes.
I would have love to… BUT…
Thanks for thinking of me, but I won’t be able to …
Sounds great, but I’m not able to commit
I’d love to, but can’t help you out right now
I appreciate your asking me for help, but I don’t have enough time to effectively help out
Thanks for thinking of me, but I’m not able to help out right now
You can offer a consolation or alternative.
No, I can’t do that, but here’s what I can do
I can’t help you out with that, but I can ….
I’d love to, but can’t help you out right now. Check with me next time.
I'm sorry I can't right now but will let you know when and if I can
Helpful Phrases for Saying “NO”:
No thanks. I have another commitment.
I don’t have time in my schedule right now.
I can’t give you an answer right now, will you check back with me?
I’m going to say no for now. I’ll let you know if something changes.
I’m honored that you would ask me, but my answer is no.